While divorce often comes with countless problems and stress for New York couples, there are some positive things to keep in mind that may bring a little bit of calm after the storm. Women and men deal with divorce in very different ways, yet both can experience positive growth through the process.
Statistics show that divorce proceedings are initiated about twice as often by women rather than men. This means that women tend to be more confident in the decision to separate, making the process somewhat more bearable. Women also have some form of custody of the children in 90 percent of cases, which can serve to lessen the anxiety with their children nearby. Additionally, thanks to social support systems and boosts in self-esteem from the role adjustments, women tend to experience quicker emotional adjustments and lower levels of stress than men.
On the other hand, men tend to experience greater emotional adjustments that could be due to loss of physical and emotional intimacy as well as reduced social connections, a disrupted household and pinched finances. In spite of the greater adjustments, men tend to remarry sooner than women, abiding to the 'try, try again' mindset. Additionally, when it comes to divorce proceedings, men tend to devote more energy toward salvaging the marriage if possible. Finally, studies indicate that partial custody of children lead men to be better parents both overall and in the long-term. They tend to be more involved in their children's lives and agree upon child support when they get to see their children regularly.
An uncontested divorce can be carried out in an orderly fashion. A divorce attorney could be able to make sure that the separation is completed in a timely manner.
Source: Huffington Post, "7 Upsides in the Aftermath of Divorce", Nancy Fagan, September 10, 2013